Ex-Pat did a post this morning , that started me thinking. Are families changing? He noted that most of his family does not stay in touch, despite so many ways to do so. Mine is much the same way. While I do not have a Facebook account, e-mail is easy, telephones (remember those?) are easy, not to mention my blog, which they all know about. But none, except one daughter, even reads it.
My extended family was adamant about getting together for certain holidays. When the children were small it was just a given that we spent Easter on a picnic, Fourth of July camping or at my brother's pool in Sacramento, and Thanksgiving at my house. Over the last two years it has all changed. Granted, our children are mostly grown and have other responsibilities, and live far apart. But, more than that, I feel an apathy towards getting together.
We no longer do Easter, younger sister didn't like how "the hunt" held money in some of the plastic eggs. Fourth of July turned into a huge debacle, unworthy of family participation, once my brother included all of his friends, and Thanksgiving is either without my children in our small place, or in Portland where we divide time with in-laws of my daughter. To say I miss having my family at my house, with the table set in my finest, is an understatement. But we no longer have the large home that accommodates families traveling, and the huge dining room with the big table.
So, like Ex-Pat, I'm left wondering - what is going on? Are we going to be looking to friends to fill the table in the future? Certainly we have a few that are in the same boat. Maybe a small get-together, with no family members in attendance? Or is this just a natural part of life? Children grow up and start lives that go in different directions, and we just need to roll with it. What about your family? Are you struggling with the same issues, or are you intact and looking forward to all the holidays complete with your extended family?