I read an article yesterday on Rep. Weiner and why the writer believes he had the compulsion to send pictures of his nether regions to young women he had never met. In the article the writer talks about the invisibility people take on as they age. Women have always known they disappear, but men have a much harder time with no longer being considered attractive and sexually desirable.
I think this extends not just to the aged. I think it extends to people in general. Oh sure, we all see very attractive people when they walk into the room. I think that is instinctual. Beautiful people stand out.
But have you ever noticed how often you really don't look or really acknowledge the person behind the role? Do you make eye contact with the person behind the counter? Beyond just that simple hello to that person making your sandwich, taking your dry cleaning, slicing your cheese - do you really see the person behind the service they are performing for you? Could you even name five features of the person when you turn and walk away?
Maybe the writer of the article is right - Rep. Weiner was terrified of no longer being considered "a catch" as he once was in Cosmopolitan Magazine. It was his way of shouting out the words, see me!