tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post6053897872015480842..comments2023-11-05T01:29:48.498-07:00Comments on LIFE IN THE SECOND HALF: Emotions - Part III - FearNancyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13178290697351352495noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-69631182350445688742011-01-13T02:24:49.089-08:002011-01-13T02:24:49.089-08:00I hand it over to my higher power.Knowing that wha...I hand it over to my higher power.Knowing that whatever happens is for my greater good.Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12919764140075852854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-4252808105903480952011-01-12T10:10:16.088-08:002011-01-12T10:10:16.088-08:00Jeannette - You lived my worst fear - the fear I h...Jeannette - You lived my worst fear - the fear I have for my children's safety. Thank you so much for sharing such wise words.<br /><br />Gypsy - Our children are old souls in little bodies. Something we forget sometimes. :-)<br /><br />Reya - Thank you!<br /><br />California Girl - Great idea!Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13178290697351352495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-15481033270810691222011-01-12T08:46:24.752-08:002011-01-12T08:46:24.752-08:00Thanks to everyone for the nice comments re: my s...Thanks to everyone for the nice comments re: my son's poem, "No Fear". I am going to email Nancy's post & ask him to read your comments. Positive feedback!<br />xoxoxoCalifornia Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12582691517303132274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-12597264416741839632011-01-12T05:05:15.002-08:002011-01-12T05:05:15.002-08:00Nancy did you see this?
http://www.ted.com/talks/...Nancy did you see this?<br /><br />http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.htmlReya Mellickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-80010980955493235332011-01-11T20:07:54.523-08:002011-01-11T20:07:54.523-08:00yes, on a personal level, the same as trish, [and ...yes, on a personal level, the same as trish, [and one of my daughters taught me this little lesson, actually], always ask what's the worst thing that could happen - and then, from there, i can move forward more easily - what's that thing about "from the mouths of babes" - in my case, so true! great post, nancy!GYPSYWOMANhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03042621041213415958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-72266964075709305402011-01-11T12:52:19.210-08:002011-01-11T12:52:19.210-08:00The worst bout of fear I ever had was that my daug...The worst bout of fear I ever had was that my daughter would, in fact, succeed in her self-destruction. I prayed. I was pro-active. I acknowledged that terror. She died. They are not connected and I never DID feel that had I handled my fear differently things would have been different. In fact, I am very grateful that I was verbal about this fear and why it was there. Sometimes, when you do not voice a very real--OR unreal fear--you cannot find out whether or not your biological fear stuff was working! My daughter acknowledged to me that I had reason to fear, but that she had to decide what to do about her illnesses. She was right. I think that acknowledging and TRYING to slay the cause of the fear, albeit unsuccessfully, was a good thing.<br /><br />Jess and I were honest. Fear can be born in and acted on out of love for another. I know her mom (Oh. I'm her stepmom) and dad never VOICED what they saw happening and they got mired in guilt.<br /><br />Your topics make me think--ALWAYS a good thing. Worry, Paranoia, Fear--all different things and hard to separate at times. THANK YOUJeannetteLShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13528285846408727632noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-15008838489197873472011-01-11T09:16:55.226-08:002011-01-11T09:16:55.226-08:00Jeff - You faced the most terrifying thing anyone ...Jeff - You faced the most terrifying thing anyone could ever face - and you came out the other side. Wow. <br /><br />Reya - You point well taken - everything in small doses is good - especially fear. Glad you're not bored!Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13178290697351352495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-51014437941793656402011-01-11T08:22:48.308-08:002011-01-11T08:22:48.308-08:00I think of all the "negative" emotions a...I think of all the "negative" emotions as functions of the survival instinct. In small doses, at the right moment, they serve us well.<br /><br />As with everything, too much of any one of them is not good.<br /><br />No I'm not bored! More please.Reya Mellickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-22237306049065852562011-01-11T06:00:46.314-08:002011-01-11T06:00:46.314-08:00Well, I've always been one to embrace fear and...Well, I've always been one to embrace fear and face it head on, but the events of the last few days showed me a fear beyond anything I've ever known before.<br /><br />This was not a fear I wanted to embrace or befriend. This was a fear I wanted to hide from, and run away from, and certainly one I never want to experience again.<br /><br />But, on the other hand, it did keep me aware and vigilant and on edge, so I guess fear did serve its intended purpose.<br /><br />(All is well now - read my latest update. Thanks, Nancy, for your support).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-89170936621880305142011-01-10T23:49:33.960-08:002011-01-10T23:49:33.960-08:00California Girl - Thank you! Love it! Your son is ...California Girl - Thank you! Love it! Your son is as gifted as his Mom.<br /><br />DJan - I think you think right. :-)<br /><br />Trish & Rob - I do the same thing. Fear certainly worked for the Bush admin - we now are close to a police state. When they want is to start carrying a "national card" or want to insert a chip it's time to run!<br /><br />Brian - That's the hope - that it doesn't become crippling.<br /><br />Good Cook - You certainly have faced the worst. On, on! :-)<br /><br />Whitney - It's great that you had that reaction. Healthy, I would say.<br /><br />Lori - Thanks Lori - glad this isn't boring. Shame is coming up - it can be debilitating if left "untreated."<br /><br />Susan - Thank you. I have used different ways to deal with fear and prayer has been one of them.<br /><br />Linda - Thank you. I like the way she deals with things, too. I think you would like this book.<br /><br />ds - I so agree with you on teens. They are so much smarter than we give them credit for. A little fear is good, too much is crippling.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13178290697351352495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-17480005348176186732011-01-10T21:06:04.805-08:002011-01-10T21:06:04.805-08:00I like these posts, Nancy. They promote thought &a...I like these posts, Nancy. They promote thought & examination--two good things. I also like the poem by California Girl's son. Too often, we don't give our teens enough credit, or believe what they are "supposed" to be experiencing, rather than their actual, individual experience (guilty, here); if we listen--really <i>listen</i>--to them, they can tell us so much...<br /><br />I do feel that a little fear is healthy, for just the reasons you describe. Those times when we allow it to control us, rather than the opposite are the dangerous times...dshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07616750784052488695noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-64825379569053821822011-01-10T20:57:33.048-08:002011-01-10T20:57:33.048-08:00i have enjoyed your take on this book and have bee...i have enjoyed your take on this book and have been reading right along, not finding it boring at all...no worries, my dear :)<br /><br />the words you quoted are absolutely stunning, a visual i can see doing myself...fear and worry are very powerful emotions or at least provoke them into a flurry of reaction and to have simple ways of turning them into something else, is worth the price of the book if not much more. xox and thank you for your comments on my blog post recently, it was very much appreciated.L'Adelaidehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10725322054223364858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-20038518507363775322011-01-10T18:25:56.855-08:002011-01-10T18:25:56.855-08:00I think her advice about how to deal with fear is ...I think her advice about how to deal with fear is very wise. We experience fear in a very personal way because nobody shares it with us but it's good to understand that everyone suffers from fear. I tend to use prayer to quiet my mind and thus stem the gut reactions that can make us ill. It's worked for me for a very long time.<br /><br />No, I'm not bored. I think the subjects are very worthy of discussion.susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16747450215034568033noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-89150231754889364522011-01-10T17:35:43.924-08:002011-01-10T17:35:43.924-08:00Even though I haven't gotten to comment much o...Even though I haven't gotten to comment much on these posts in this series you are doing, I have really enjoyed them...they have given me much food for thought...and the length is not a problem to me either...fear has kept me from living my life at times and there was a time I allowed it to control my every decision, which is not really living...I pray and I use visualization when I am fearful and that really does help. Since I have resolved to face my shame this year, I am really looking forward to reading your thoughts on this area.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04441204804740501624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-69830200276625269272011-01-10T16:28:37.071-08:002011-01-10T16:28:37.071-08:00What a great poem-and so true.
You're defin...What a great poem-and so true. <br /><br />You're definitely not boring me. In fact, the more I read the more certain I am that I need to get this book. <br /><br />I can remember a few years ago, after looking the worst in the face, I began to jump out of bed each morning ready to tackle the day. I no longer let fear hold me back from trying new things or attempting what I'd always hesitated to attempt. It was a heady feeling. <br /><br />It does help me to ask myself what the worst case scenario is.Whitney Leehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07766231420593480962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-81756833051180688962011-01-10T15:39:30.378-08:002011-01-10T15:39:30.378-08:00Nancy,
I am learning to live without fear. I have ...Nancy,<br />I am learning to live without fear. I have experienced the worse thing that could happen - now, everything else is cake. <br />On another note, a seed has been planted in my brain as to what my future may look like. I'll expand on it more but in the meantime f you could offer up some plea to the universe on my behalf (and my path) I sure would appreciate it. I'll expand more on it when I have a better understanding of what I think my future will look like. No Fear. On, On.<br />Linda<br />LindaThe Good Cookhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01249986191289837440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-29388848701161059102011-01-10T14:58:26.973-08:002011-01-10T14:58:26.973-08:00there is good fear and bad...we can not let it cri...there is good fear and bad...we can not let it cripple us...nice poem by cali's son too!Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-77168171476318687392011-01-10T13:37:52.985-08:002011-01-10T13:37:52.985-08:00Terrific post.
Fear was the Bush administration&...Terrific post. <br /><br />Fear was the Bush administration's greatest weapon against we, the people. On a personal level, when I'm afraid, the first thing I ask myself is: What's the worst thing that can happen? From there, I can usually talk myself out of it or, at the very least, understand it.Trish and Rob MacGregorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02846270474176860924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-6628124588591735982011-01-10T13:29:31.350-08:002011-01-10T13:29:31.350-08:00Wow, that is some poem, and some post. I can't...Wow, that is some poem, and some post. I can't help but think of the Dune series, where "Fear is the mind killer" is used over and over again.<br /><br />As a skydiving instructor, I was always more observant of those (usually male) students who exhibited no fear, because I suspected that it was the idea that if you didn't acknowledge the fear, it wouldn't exist. But of course it did. <br /><br />Fear is our friend, as long as we treat it with respect, not neglect or give it undue attention. That's what I think, anyway.DJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-83284368389414565962011-01-10T12:36:54.935-08:002011-01-10T12:36:54.935-08:00Nancy, may I take the liberty of posting a poem my...Nancy, may I take the liberty of posting a poem my son wrote when he was around 16 years old? It still grabs me.<br /><br />No Fear<br /><br />Everything's so easy, when you're a kid,<br />No pressures to worry about, you can just live.<br />Everyone's so nice, you never see mean,<br />You can feel safe, living as a human being.<br />You go to play in Little League games, while people cheer,<br />You can be out, and live a life of No Fear.<br /><br />Every now and then, a problem comes across,<br />It might be that you fell, and caused your team a loss.<br />But its over and its done, within a couple days,<br />It doesn't leave you scared and confused, in an endless maze.<br />You can go over there, you can be over here,<br />You can live the life of No Fear. <br /><br />Then you get older and the pressures come down,<br />You don't feel like the king anymore, wearing your golden crown.<br />Your friends and your family, say two things far apart,<br />Stuck in this position, it's hard to follow your heart.<br />Should I do drugs? <br />Should I drink beer?<br />What happened to my life? <br />My life of No Fear?<br /><br />You see when you're a kid, everything comes to you so easy,<br />No decisions to make,<br />This might sound a bit cheesy.<br />But don't forget that you had the life to live,<br />Everything that you did came out pretty positive.<br />You didn't have to do drugs, or drink beer and be a fool,<br />Back in the days with your friends, you could always be cool.<br />When you're a kid, you don't have to worry about bad things being near,<br />You go on living your life, your life with No Fear.California Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12582691517303132274noreply@blogger.com