tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post3597475128355011397..comments2023-11-05T01:29:48.498-07:00Comments on LIFE IN THE SECOND HALF: Hate BombsNancyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13178290697351352495noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-13736602470406208652009-07-09T07:31:10.536-07:002009-07-09T07:31:10.536-07:00Helpful post. Thanks.
Sometimes negativity is in...Helpful post. Thanks. <br /><br />Sometimes negativity is included in a package that also includes a lot of good. This is what I am struggling with in my relationship with a close relative. I want to be closer. I know there is a lot of love there, but at the same time there is the negativity and criticism. <br /><br />Yes, you absolutely have to delete when you can. I completely agree. But at times it is not so black and white. Then I need to sort out the good from the bad. Sometimes I learn a lot from the "negative" comments given to my by close relatives. I know this is really a different topic but it is what is on my mind right now. <br /><br />love,<br />ErikaErika C.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15018350601746637215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-66432125093136089242009-07-09T03:37:35.774-07:002009-07-09T03:37:35.774-07:00Luckily my relatives only send me jokes and cute a...Luckily my relatives only send me jokes and cute animal pictures!pamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02651944290195111894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-71656944424066232092009-07-08T22:47:54.170-07:002009-07-08T22:47:54.170-07:00I totally agree with this post, you are so right. ...I totally agree with this post, you are so right. Occasionally if they catch just wrong I will respond and tell them how it really is, I know I have pissed people off doing this, but do I care - no.<br /><br />Most of the time like you I just delete them and then have a lower opinion of the person.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09542425639950850366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-50595212232546761922009-07-08T13:03:47.797-07:002009-07-08T13:03:47.797-07:00I get my "hate bomb" attacks in the form...I get my "hate bomb" attacks in the form of phone calls. I wish I could just hit delete, but it's not that easy. Sometimes I can "shake off" the phone call. Other times it sets me into a "tailspin". I really love my answering machine most of the time. <br /><br />I agree, put space between them and you, no matter who they are.Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00689827708966734506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-71996261240196449682009-07-08T13:01:37.868-07:002009-07-08T13:01:37.868-07:00I haven't read all your comments, so I don'...I haven't read all your comments, so I don't know if anyone else mentioned this. I just received an option to join a campaign to "reply all" to these hate bombs and state the truth. If you're interested it's <a href="http://salsa.wiredforchange.com/o/2747/t/3251/petition.jsp?petition_KEY=618" rel="nofollow">here</a>.Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14204074161539605133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-32182177554027819102009-07-08T09:22:30.785-07:002009-07-08T09:22:30.785-07:00Nice post. The more time on the web, the more I se...Nice post. The more time on the web, the more I see that scene in the movie 2001 where the ape/humans discover the first tool (a club) then proceed to beat one another over the head with it.Cubilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01022842865640625018noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-57109164920851669842009-07-08T08:33:33.364-07:002009-07-08T08:33:33.364-07:00Nancy, it takes a lot of energy and courage to rid...Nancy, it takes a lot of energy and courage to rid the toxic people from your life. I've done it, it took decades in the end for me to come to my decision to disown the family and leave the friends behind. I grieved, though they didn't deserve it, I grieved all of them as though they had died; they symbolically did die since they were suddenly and completely out of my life. But after the grieving, guilt, fear, regret...did I make the wrong decision?....day by day, it got better. I am so glad I didn't run back in fear because I would never have come this far. I think you should do what you have to do to make YOUR life better, more happy, peaceful and meaningful. If it means to let go of, or block unwanted emails, that's a first step. I wish you all the best in your decisions and your life!!!<br />:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-75912306559869575362009-07-08T08:04:24.505-07:002009-07-08T08:04:24.505-07:00Hubby has a "friend" from high school wh...Hubby has a "friend" from high school who "keeps in touch" by doing the same thing: forwarding hate bombs. Like you said, keep them at a distance.Mom! Dude!https://www.blogger.com/profile/01904416443006493488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-7054741017628018572009-07-08T07:24:28.719-07:002009-07-08T07:24:28.719-07:00Hi, thanks for visiting me. I totally agree with ...Hi, thanks for visiting me. I totally agree with your commentary here, about people who forward hate literature. In a way, they are sharing their feelings without admitting as much. Good for you for destroying and not passing on any of that stuff.Rosaria Williamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03133147851332084180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-14362571820179257202009-07-08T06:18:30.380-07:002009-07-08T06:18:30.380-07:00Thanks for an insightful post.
I finally blocked ...Thanks for an insightful post.<br /><br />I finally blocked e-mail from a person who sent no personal messages and only sent fwd,fwd opinion pieces written by others. I no longer open those chain mail messages that have been mass e-mailed to everyone in a person's address book. I respect the rights of others to believe whatever they want, but it is an insult to my intelligence that they would think that my opinions are so open to change that all they have to do is tell me that their beliefs are the correct ones. I'm not a fanatic looking for a cause. I know what I believe and it doesn't matter to me what others believe. I don't feel the need to try to change the opinions of others so I avoid discussions of politics and religion because they rapidly become pointless arguments. No one is converted, everyone is mad.R. J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10291839202970032184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-62799450756960371582009-07-08T05:48:52.407-07:002009-07-08T05:48:52.407-07:00When I get hate bombs, I delete them so fast you w...When I get hate bombs, I delete them so fast you wouldn't believe it. Like you, I do not want to give them any energy. I do believe in freedom of speech and expression, so in a certain way I support the right to forward even toxic emails.<br /><br />I believe that whatever you put out into the world will return to you three times. So put love out and you will receive it times three. Put hateful toxic hideousness out, and well ...Reya Mellickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13076092659507965666noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-21782107956797153232009-07-08T04:36:27.407-07:002009-07-08T04:36:27.407-07:00Isn't it true? Boundaries are our friends.......Isn't it true? Boundaries are our friends....Mental P Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05957544840704376193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-28850524499942326692009-07-08T03:00:44.082-07:002009-07-08T03:00:44.082-07:00I am totally with you on this! I actually never ev...I am totally with you on this! I actually never even forward mails unless they touch me profoundly. There are so many haters out there and so much negativity that you can do without. Why do people even care so much about bringing others down? Its a horrible way to live! Good for you - move on!Adiyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14979816575908889345noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-50609769879059306642009-07-08T02:36:40.906-07:002009-07-08T02:36:40.906-07:00Hi, Nancy! THANKS for visiting my blog. Hate bombs...Hi, Nancy! THANKS for visiting my blog. Hate bombs sound so negative indeed and I also try to distance myself from as much negativism as possible 'coz it's just not a healthy way of living.Amelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-59966489920691881722009-07-07T22:40:24.573-07:002009-07-07T22:40:24.573-07:00i just hit the "delete" button. I have ...i just hit the "delete" button. I have alot of relatives and friens that seem to enjoy sending propaganda about mexican imigrants...and once in a while I remind them that I dont feel the same way they do. They dont seem to care or understand and so when I see yet more of that crap I just delete it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-88321661482180886772009-07-07T21:00:21.216-07:002009-07-07T21:00:21.216-07:00Good for you, Nancy. Sometimes it's difficult...Good for you, Nancy. Sometimes it's difficult but that's just what we have to do, put distance between us and those that bring negativity to our lives. I does affect us, it stays with us and it is not acceptable. Life is too short. We need to spread love and good thoughts for solutions, and we must respect others opinions and not try to force ours on them.<br />Great post and good for you!TheChicGeekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10781656678543589662noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-31742465397169202012009-07-07T20:52:09.936-07:002009-07-07T20:52:09.936-07:00I've gotten to the point where I only forward ...I've gotten to the point where I only forward something if it means something important to me. I'm lucky that the only forwards I get are from my mom and pretty much all the things she sends are positive in nature (although occasionally I'll get a "send this to 15 people and your wish will come true" stuff).Kschenkehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06655115199381639363noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-2177282508504725152009-07-07T19:35:32.717-07:002009-07-07T19:35:32.717-07:00I now put emailers who send me that crap in the &q...I now put emailers who send me that crap in the "junk" pile so I no longer receive their stuff in my Inbox. I have one old friend who is Jewish and her brother hates immigrants and all manner of things and he sends her that stuff & she forwards to everyone. They should know better! I am always astounded. Another old friend, a retired fireman, sends stupid stuff, not as vile but just unkind. I can't read his "jokes" any longer either.California Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12582691517303132274noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-14681824421399114792009-07-07T19:24:37.417-07:002009-07-07T19:24:37.417-07:00I'm not really sure why people want to spread ...I'm not really sure why people want to spread fear, hate and animosity...and I really don't believe that all the people that forward these things, really stop and think about what they are doing. Not an excuse but I really don't think they mean to spread such hate. But, you are right in calling it for what it is. <br /><br />Hate, nasty, mean-spirited, ugly, animosity and fear are negative engergy, that no one needs in their life. I think when our eye's open up to it's affect on ourselves and one another, it's important that we take action to eliminate it from our lives. Your refusal to give it any energy is wise. This negative energy is toxic to us...it drains us and makes us stagnant. When we accept it, we risk hurting ourselves and then passing it on to others.<br /><br />I like what you say when you say you can't change your friends or relatives...that you can only work on yourself. That is such a good reminder. Thank you for sharing your wisdom!Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04441204804740501624noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-38055519914837805792009-07-07T19:01:45.078-07:002009-07-07T19:01:45.078-07:00Good for you, Nancy! I have several so called frie...Good for you, Nancy! I have several so called friends who send me the same kind of twisted stuff in emails. I don't respond to "hate bombs" (perfect name) and delete them without reading.Margueritehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15846051579802335412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-76199133353089692072009-07-07T18:57:28.463-07:002009-07-07T18:57:28.463-07:00This happened frequently during the Bush years, wh...This happened frequently during the Bush years, when people were attacked if they came out against the war or torture or anything else that Bush advocated. But the bottom line is that after 8 years in which the bar was set so low, when hate and fear mongering became business as usual, it's not surprising there are still people who attempt to instill the same old stuff. <br /><br />So let's refuse to energize that kind of thinking and, instead, send these people peace, love, harmony.Trish and Rob MacGregorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02846270474176860924noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-81755108598020248402009-07-07T18:47:09.944-07:002009-07-07T18:47:09.944-07:00Oh, the power of that magical delete button..........Oh, the power of that magical delete button......... But, I know, you have to wonder what people are thinking to be sending it to anyone. Maybe they find it as appalling as you do and want to commiserate..... maybe.Kathy's Klotheslinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17881966393157941515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-86615672514907983182009-07-07T17:54:21.851-07:002009-07-07T17:54:21.851-07:00Boundaries are a wonderful thing.
We create oursel...Boundaries are a wonderful thing.<br />We create ourselves by the choices we make, and sometimes, it is a choice of boundaries.Hilaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02528439226293446420noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-85246788145891079312009-07-07T17:23:31.515-07:002009-07-07T17:23:31.515-07:00First time I hear/read about such things. Thank yo...First time I hear/read about such things. Thank you for informing me that such 'bombs' do exist, will be on the lookout.roberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05457724318596670810noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5571749075036803790.post-45082748660702239932009-07-07T17:12:07.231-07:002009-07-07T17:12:07.231-07:00Love your view that you can't change others, y...Love your view that you can't change others, you can only work on you! So valid, and worthwhile. I too think the best response is silence, distance, creating a quiet pocket of peace around yourself.Joannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03972054718663959694noreply@blogger.com